Kids Speak: Does Asking for Help Strip Away my Independence?
This post was contributed by Kavya Shah, a grade 9 student from the Riverside School in Ahmedabad, India.
The dictionary meaning of independence is – being free from outside control. I can gauge from the meaning that, the day when you are able to stand up, and not let other people influence your conduct makes you truly independent. The idea of independence is free to perception. Some people might view it as a manner of being free from some kind of debt, while some as a manner of living. According to me, being independent is the ability to follow your heart. Independence, like, clothes, comes in different colors, costs and types (and price tags). For example, colors are known to showcase your feelings, independence to few might be happy and yellow, while to others might be black, sad and a feeling of missing something.
At my school, we are often pushed over the edge of a cliff. The idea of plunging into the world outside the comfortable environment of our school; for certain time periods helps understand, that there will not always be a safety net. You have to create that. Experiencing real difficulties such as hunger, child labour and physical disabilities in its true sense enables you to empower yourself and bring change, that change in mindset; according to me is the state of being independent. Therefore, I believe it is imperative for schools to provide a platform for children to bring change, to ask for help and to manage things themselves. A movement requires people being helpful and encouraging to you.
Asking for help, or needing a mentor, does not mean you are dependent. It simply throws some light on the fact that you have been able to identify that you need help. The process of self-introspection brings a sense of responsibility and independence. People feel that asking for advice showcases that you can’t make decisions and are weak. But, asking for help shows how well you can take criticism and recognise your own limitations. Yes, another perception of independence could mean doing everything by yourself, which isn’t wrong. Managing resources, time and everyday activities without reminders does make you independent. But if everyone does everything right and does not need help, you would not need anyone in charge, people will turn into robots. But being human is making mistakes. The ability to think in hindsight, reflect and learn from your not only your mistakes but also your past, portrays being free and being independent.
As Shahrukh Khan once quoted (from the movie: Dear Zindagi) “ Why let the past blackmail your present to ruin a beautiful future?”
We don’t need robots; we need thinkers who view the world with a different eye. That’s the idea the Late Prime Minister, Pundit Jawaharlal Nehru spoke about in his speech, Tryst With destiny. I quote from his speech:
“The achievement we celebrate today is but a step, an opening of opportunity, to the greater triumphs and achievements that await us. Are we brave enough and wise enough to grasp this opportunity and accept the challenge of the future?”
So the idea of independence comes in packages and not at once, it’s a journey and a reflection, one should undertake to not only discover themselves but also create a lasting impact on their community. So on this Independence Day, let’s take control of our own lives, celebrate ourselves and be human. Jai Hind.